What kinds of things do you classify under “bad parenting”?
May 31st, 2010 14 Comments
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Question by twinmomma: What kinds of things do you classify under “bad parenting”?
We all have different opinions…I know!! I believe I am a very good mother…I was just curious as to what you all thought was “bad parenting”!! And I also know…everyone parents differently!
Best answer:
Answer by Mamma of 3
If I only have .00 left till payday and I’m out of wine and the baby’s out of formula…….If I get the wine and not the formula I would say that’s bad parenting!! LOL!
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
physical, emotional abuse. yelling, spanking, bad nutrition, neglect, not helping with school work. not helping the child succeed in life or school.
Cussing around children.
LOL, this is a loaded question.
I feel that all parents do the best they can with the knowledge they have at that moment in time. So, while my neighbor is an alcoholic and just got arrested for drunk driving, I feel that she is doing the best she can with her disease and all–she’s a mother of two.
That said, I become irritated with parents who don’t discipline their children and aren’t consistent. I’m talking about those that may say “no” but don’t back it up with ANYTHING. A child who learns they simply don’t have to listen, or can smart back, is a child who has no guidance. This can result in kids who talk back, have authority problems, run rampant in public. We all have seen those kids who are out in public, be it a restaurant or something, and they are allowed to scream and run around the place. Ugh!
Also and obviously, parents who abuse their kids. These are the biggest signs of “bad” parenting for me.
To me a few examples are:
overindulgence, using a cell phone as a babysitter, not knowing where your kids are at all times(I mean like you know for 100% sure…not just “they told me they were…….”),
not paying your bills!(of course things can come up…I’m talking about not paying them regularly), hitting them with any kind of object, allowing them to exploit themselves with their clothing(we’ve all seen whats on the racks the last few years…yikes!), not teaching them about the world and different things in it, not having a stable enviornment to raise them in(by choice, not because something terrible happened and it can’t be helped)
Theres a lot of things to me personally, but theres a few right off the top of my head.
Spending the last of your money on something you want(not need) instead of getting something baby needs.
Not paying attention to your children when its needed
Letting your children run wild outside unsupervised
Letting children dart across a parking lot without a parent right next to them holding their hand
Letting children ride in the front seat when they are WAY too young.
Getting a vehicle that you want because its cute or someother reasons for you and not one that is practical for children(such as a 2 seater sportscar or something like that)
Letting children sit in a car without a seat belt on
Doing drugs in front of your children
Get Drunk in front of your children
Get drunk when you know that you will have to handle and take care of your infant
Taking them out in clothes not fit for the weather i.e., shorts and sleevless shirt in winter or bundled up like an eskimo in the summer time
Taking them out in the weather when its not really needed(such as if you want a candy bar or a drink from the store and its cold and raining out…don’t take baby out for that just do without until you can go without having to take baby out in it)
All in all in my eyes bad parenting is when the parent using NO COMMON SESE! If you have common sense and actually use it then I don’t see why you can not be a good parent.
Also just want to clarify that I am not talking directly about you…I just use ‘ you’ a lot…sorry
Hitting them, yelling excessively and saying bad word to them (I don’t think it is bad if a word slips, like if a parent works around bad language all the time, neglect, eating too much junk, not being there emotionally for your child, and putting your needs and wants before the child’s needs and wants. Killing them of course too.
Oh yeah and not watching over them good and lack of discipline too. Discipline meaning some sort of consequences for bad actions that allow the child to understand consequences.
Setting your child on fire
Raping your child
Beating them until their face caves in
Poopin’ on them
Selling them for a profit
Pimping them out on the street
If I listed everything I’d be here all night lol but a few things I consider bad parenting are first the obvious neglect and abuse. I also agree with what another person said about no discipline what so ever. Also, letting the tv/computer raise your kids instead of you doing the raising. Letting your kid go where ever they want with whomever they want without knowing where, when, and who they’re going with and what time they’ll be back is also bad. Having a 1 o’clock curfew for anyone under the age of 18.
to me, if you decide to have a baby, they are your #1 priority, and anything you do that doesn’t reflect that concept is bad parenting in my book.
-lack of attention
-lack of encouragment
-criticism
-ridiculing
-shoving, pushing, hitting, hair pulling, slapping
-modeling bad behavior, like being rude, short tempered, gossiping, selfishness, road rage, bad language, lack of empathy, smoking, drug use, alcohol abuse, laziness, lying, cheating, stealing, disrespect to bona-fide authorities (church, police, teachers, etc.)
-not providing a predictable and safe environment for childen by allowing contact with friends and family who are not stable and from whom the children should be shielded rather than exposed
those come to mind quickly
Giving children everything that they want as opposed to what they *need*.That is a form of neglect.
Parents must love and nurture their children but they cannot be their “best friend” – discipline and guidance are just as important as their other needs.
Not taking a child seriously when they are dealing with a serious issue.
Favoring one child over other(s).
Ignoring one child more than other(s).
Giving children anything they want.
Allowing your children to disrespect you.
Not teaching your children basic wisdom in the practical issues of life.
Walking along in the store with your toddler following behind (not holding his little hand or putting him in the cart).
This list could go on, but it’s late here on the east coast.
Here’s a list:
sheltering children
yelling too much
spanking too much or too hard
not giving reasons behind orders
expecting children to be submissive robots
denying children self-expression
indoctrination of personal beliefs/opinions onto the children
overprotecting them
not listening to their side of the story
not helping them out with homework
stage parents- enough said
abuse
Dressing them in Teflon trousers is *neglect*