What is worse “under parenting” or “over parenting”?
June 2nd, 2010 19 Comments
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Question by Indrid Cold: What is worse “under parenting” or “over parenting”?
What do you consider worse? Not parenting enough, letting your child do anything they want; or over parenting, micromanaging every aspect of your child’s life.
Best answer:
Answer by sammyxolove
underparenting. always give your child love and care.
What do you think? Answer below!
I personally think that under parenting is worse. I’m really over protective.
Being on the extreme side of anything is toxic…. whether it be parenting, politics, or anything else. Balance is key. They are both “worse” in my book.
I am a bit torn, there is a very long story behind it that I will not get into, but if this person that is close to me it wouldn’t have mattered if he was over or under parented, the results would have been the same no matter what.
If I had to pick just one I would say over parenting, it will just make the child rebel more.
Under-Parenting is way worse. Yes, OVER-Parenting can be obnoxious, but not caring about your kids is just not right. I am 13, and even I would say that Over-Parenting is worse, but ehh… I would hate to be “under-parented”… lol =]
over parenting
i HAD a few friends whose parents were guilty of over parenting and now they could be on girls gone wild.
I think both are just as bbad as the other in thier own way, but if I had to pick one i would say underparenting.
At least if they were overparenting they would be trying to do the best for thier kids life, and showing them that they cared and loved them.
Well, looking at the situation, a child of an ‘underparent’ is capable of overcoming that of their own strength of will. They can overcome the lack of appropriate discipline and education and set their own boundaries and learn on their own, so that when they enter the world they are well established. Likewise the child of an ‘overparent’ may be able to compensate for the lack of education from their parent and prepare themselves for the world, but personally, I don’t think it is as likely.
An ‘underparent’ is passively effecting on their child’s growth, not offering the learning experiences and guidance necessary to grow. That isn’t to say they are not offering love, but that they are not offering the appropriate guidance. Those children may be able to find their own way. However, an ‘overparent’ is actively preventing their child from obtaining that knowledge.
To use an analogy, think of the child as a person who is going to be traveling through the forest to learn self reliance in the wild.
An ‘underparent’ will hand them a sack of supplies and tell them they are on their own.
A parent will take the journey with them, offering their expertise where it comes up and ensuring their child finds their way if they get lost.
An ‘overparent’ bulldozes a road through the forest for their child to walk on.
Personally, I think that the overprotective parent is worse, although both are detrimental to children.
over parenting is worse, just always let your child know you love them.
both are really bad i come from a over parenting mother and i rebelled every time i could but my husband came from a under parenting like family (both parents worked) and he has bad self esteem and family skills. so both are hurtful.
Both.
Either results in a rebel delinquent child.
Underparenting definently
I think, in the moment of kids being kids, over-parenting is worse because it comes across as condensing, un-trusting, and stifles kids.
I think, overall, though, under-parenting has the hardest long term problems because kids grow into adults who have not learned how to work cooperatively, how to set limits and work inside of limits, and how to make appropriate choices rather than make any old decision they want. I believe it’s easier to learn how to become more relaxed and to let go, but it’s harder to learn how to become more disciplined as an adult.
That’s tough but I think not enough, you’d rather have your kid safe then kidnapped because you let them run all over the toy store (I work at a toy store and it’s incredible what parents let there kids do…sometimes we have to call parents up to the front because there’s a random kid walking around, like they don’t even notice!)
both are just as bad.
theyre both harmful… balance is the key…
In my opinion under parenting.
over parenting. you will make your kid not see the world for what it is
Both are pretty bad but over parenting is far worse, under parented may be undisciplined, but it doesn’t take a genius to work out that hitting people is a bad idea.
Plus when under parented and some what neglected every one will say that’s bad and be on the child’s side where as over parented children will be told that they do it because they care and to stop being a disrespectful brats, which makes it worse.
Under parenting allows you to make mistakes learn from them and learn to make your own decisions and solutions to a problem, where as over parenting you’re left in ignorance to what the outside world is like and what it’s like to live in it.
over- parenting:
It makes children nervous that something is wrong.
It makes children rebelous.
Children can learn to parent themselves in cases of under- parenting, but there is no way to cope with over- parenting.