Q&A: What parenting “rule” brings out your inner rebel?
May 30th, 2010 9 Comments
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Question by Gabrielle ?: What parenting “rule” brings out your inner rebel?
Mine would be the “don’t let the TV be the babysitter”. Sometimes Mommy needs 30 minutes to herself 
Rebel Mom here, lol.
I’m asking more along the lines of rules for parents, not parents’ rules for kids, lol.
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Not really much I can’t do that I really want to do, I’m not into drugs alcohol or smoking. I’m allowed to have girlfriends and stuff, obviously they don’t want me having sex, but I don’t want kids before I’m 18 either.
Edit: Why did I get two thumbs down..just tryin to be a good kid, jeez.
-Billy
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My mom used to make us do deep cleaning and scrubbing housework on sundays! I freakin hated that the worst!
well, i dont know exactly what you mean, but ill try my best:
i think that the rule that makes me want to break it most is being forbid to talk to someone/go somewhere/do something (a rule that is extremely specific) but mostly talk to someone
also, if its something that can be easily done anyways, well, why not? for instance, my friend always gets her ipod taken away from her, but her mom hides it in her dresser and my friend can use it whenver she wants when her parents arent home and then put it back. thats easy, so why not?
like i said, i dont know what youre asking, but i hope this helps
Aside from “reward/praise good behavior”…?
I suppose that would be the rule of “You have to teach your kids whose boss or they’ll be little misbehaving brats.” I agree that kids need to know that Mom and Dad do set limits that need to be followed and that “what they say sticks”, but the implication is what makes me rebel. It implies that parents who use a more constructivist approach (where it’s not so important what they do but that they’re learning why they should do it) and who don’t dole out punishments and threats and take away toys and privileges are being lazy, trying to be buddy-buddies with their children, and let their children walk all over them.
The “you have to be consistent with your “discipline” (punishments and rewards even though they aren’t really discipline) otherwise your kids will start taking advantage of you and will know you don’t really mean business” rule makes me rebel too. I’m really bothered when I see adults make parenting out to be a fight with their kids that they have to win, and where they have to “hold their guns all the time” even if they’re wrong or other more appropriate options exist, because they’re afraid of looking weak to their kids.
I watched a little 2 1/2 year old girl in nursery today as one of the ladies made “keep your bum on the chair so you’re safe” into a fight. After a few “yes/no yes nos”, and a “I’m gonna tell my mommy on you”, the teacher said “well, you go ahead and do that, I don’t care.” Then the little girl called her a witch (with a B). Good parenting doesn’t usually involve fighting with kids to get them to comply, and when it does, both of them end up losing.
Really, it’s not so big of a deal to say “let’s just eat chocolate cake and apple sauce for dinner tonight, leave the dishes for tomorrow, and worry about your homework Sunday night.” every once in a while.
mine would be the what you let your child watch rule.i let my youngest watch things with me that other parents would never let their kids watch. but for some reason my child usually has better grades and is much better behaved than those tv deprived children
Mine’s got to be the “don’t lock the kids in the cellar” one. Come on, sometimes mummy just needs a couple of weeks to herself!
Ok, for the prudes’ benefit, I am of course joking. I’m with you on the TV one, in the denomination of minutes rather than weeks, I’ll add. Another would have to be the “don’t give into your child’s tantrums” one. Nine times out of ten I don’t… but sometimes, just sometimes, if one little square of chocolate is going to make the difference between me ruining fifty people’s lunchbreaks or not, I might just do it.
All of them! I hate anybody who thinks that parenting is like a recipe you follow out of a cookbook. Parenting rules are like New Year’s resolutions they are made to be broken.
Mine would have to be the whole show your kids what they are supposed to do by doing it yourself. I don’t take out the toys so the majority of the time I won’t clean them up. They have to eat their fruits and vegetables, but if I don’t want any that night I don’t take them. Horrible isn’t it?
hmmmm, mine would be…
“rise and shine” or “early bird gets the worm”
i’m not a morning person, lol and wouldn’t ya know it, dd1 isn’t either…dd2 now she’s my alarm clock. 8:00 on the dot usually. needless to say, we have lazy mornings, LOL…we don’t usually get anything meaningful done until 11:ish
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change out of your pj’s
there are days where we all just hang around in our pj’s…it’s comfy!
omg, i can’t beleive “Don’t ever let them in your bed or you’ll never get them out” wasn’t my answer, lol.
we share a family bed with our kids. dd1 is 3yrs old and hubby just built her “big girl bed” tonight. we still need to paint it and buy a mattress, but dd1 is SOOOO excited! so that “rule” is obviously a myth, LOL =)
Interesting question.
One for me would be “Don’t ever let them in your bed or you’ll never get them out.” When he’s sick or hurt or having a bad night, trouble sleeping, etc. or just plain wants to for the night then he can come into my bed if that’s what I want to do. Everybody wants to be comforted when they feel down.