Is it honestly “bad parenting” if you don’t give your teen the sex talk?
May 30th, 2010 16 Comments
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Question by Soloist: Is it honestly “bad parenting” if you don’t give your teen the sex talk?
A woman at my parents’ church told them they were “horrible parents” for not preaching safe sex (or whatever parents try to teach). I don’t see how that’s any of her business (but they talk about everything in their little groups apparently).
I personally just think it’s the woman. She’s very intrusive and obviously feels the need to criticize everything.
Best answer:
Answer by Cindy D
It shouldn’t be A sex talk. It should be an ongoing process, and include values, your goals, future plans, respect for yourself and others, your religious beliefs, and lots more.
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Parents should have the safe sex talk with their teens. I personally think it should be talked about going into middle school. The first time a teen has the sex talk with their parents their normally telling them their pregnant or their girlfriend is pregnant. It should be an open topic between parents and their children to try and prevent pregnancy…
idk. im gonna give the sex talk when i either catch my kids masturbating, watching porn or just acting very horny cuz by then they’ll probably already know everything. so um no thats your own choice
Yes, I do think it’s bad parenting if you don’t talk to your kids about sex (and we are not talking about one conversation). It is no different than other things that you should teach. The Army at least teaches you how to shoot a gun and duck before they send you off into the fray. You have the same parental responsibility.
I think not talking to your children about sex is bad parenting.
The subject of sex with your children isn’t just the physical side of it. You talk about the emotional side.
Things that can happen if you are not prepared or protected.
It’s talking about how our bodies work.
It’s talking about relationships and babies.
I think this information should be coming from parents. Not kids’ friends, internet, or school.
I actually kind of do. Sex education is something they need to survive. I get parents dont want their teens having sex, and Im not condoning it – but, if teens want to have sex they will find a way. Beyond that, if the parent never educates their children, where are they supposed to get the knowledge from? Many people who were never given education at home go into adult hood believing different myths.
But it shouldnt be just one big talk. It should be an open line of communication from day one.. starting with anatomy, basic details of sex and where babies come from. Increase the amount of information a little at a time and at an age appropriate stage.
I think its bad parenting to not teach your kids about sex.
I dont think its bad parenting to be realistic and teach your kids ALL of the facts and not just “dont have sex until your married”.
I think only telling your kids “dont have sex until your married” and not giving them real facts, is bad parenting.
Kids need to know about sex and the facts. The majority of them will experiment with it and its sad when they have all these misconceptions about it.
Yes, I think it’s horrible for parents not to address the subject of sex with their children. I really think you should have already starting talking to them BEFORE they are teenagers.
I’m 16 and my mom never told me about ‘sex’ or ‘safe sex’ i learnt about all that stuff when I was in Year 5. I honestly think I would never have sex, at a young age at least, obviously, it depends on your childs age and what you think. Because it’s up to the parent’s isn’t it, not some silly lady who doesn’t know anything.
well um its always good to talk about that with them you know so they dont screw up as a teen. you know what im saying. just make sure that she is ready and she uses protection.
You should be open with your kids about sex, starting around the pre-teen age. Just because you don’t mention it to them doesn’t mean they won’t do it or learn about it somewhere else. As parents it is your responsibility to give your kids information on how to be safe, whether or not you want them to have sex or not.
It is if they become a parent at 14 because they didnt understand that sex can actually make you pregnant…
Good God, they teach Sex Ed. in school, damn, tell them church hoes to get a life.
i would say you dont have to give your teen the “sex” talk because they are going to do whatever they’re heart says to do anyway. schools these days would teach them that if male and female have UN-PROTECTED sex with eachother, they have babies. so if your child doesn’t want a baby, u have nothing to worry about. as long as they are not overly defiant in personality.
i think the umbrella theme parents should be teaching their kids is responsibility. after that, other talks should follow…which includes a series of sex talks under the main message that is being responsible when it comes to one’s sexuality. responsibilty should’ve already been hammered into them at a very young age so accepting the sex talk would be much easier. if a parent suddenly pulls a teen into a sex talk, curiosity can get the best of the teen and the talk would’ve backfired. self-respect should be one of the talks under responsibility, too. it’s a perfect segue to the sex talk. that’s just my honest opinion, of course.
Umm, well this subject is kind of personal, I don’t think you can generalize that much by saying every parent is “bad parent” for not having the sex talk. But I think parents should talk to their kids about drugs, alcohol and sex. Kids aren’t stupid. Adults think that teens believe everything they hear from their friends, but we do check up on things. I know if I wanted to know something about drugs, alcohol or sex, and didn’t want to ask my parents, I would check up on loads of different websites to get my facts straight.
The only thing is, I think it really helps when parents talk to their kids instead of assuming that they know not to do something. I know for a fact that kids are less likely to do something if there parents talk to them about it. Here’s just a little fact: Teens are 48% less likely to use drugs if there parents talk to them about it. I know this question is about sex, but that fact shows that talking to your kids about that kind of stuff is worth it.
But to answer your question, no I don’t think it’s “bad parenting” if parents don’t give their kids the sex talk, but I think they should.
Is not only bad parenting it is ^dangerous parenting^ . Children need to be informed about everything that happens in the real world. Sex is just one of many thing a teen needs to be informed, and home is the best and safest place to receive healthy information from people that love them.