Question by Tobit: Where do these “anti-adoption” people expect the children to go if they are not adopted?
This was posted as an answer to another question, “Where do these “anti-adoption” people expect the children to go if they are not adopted? Have a heart, give a kid a chance.”

In a world with adoption reform, where would children go?

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Answer by fly
probably some kind of group home like what they have for the children now. there are so many children it the system now because not too many ppl want to adopt older children, they want baby’s.

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Question by Yea_Its_Me: Is there any way to find biological parents from a “sealed adoption”?
My husband was adopted in Kentucky around 1975. He says that the adoption was “sealed” and therefor he cannot obtain the name of his parents. Does anyone know whether or not any laws have changed which would allow him to do so?

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Answer by Sheri G
There are several adoption reunion organizations and registries. For starters, try:

http://reunion.adoption.com/

http://www.adoptionregistry.net/

http://www.kyadoptions.com/

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Question by julie j: Could someone please rationalize what agencies call “confidential adoption” so it makes sense?
By definition, a closed adoption or “confidential adoption,” must first require taking away the rights of a child to know his/her identity in order to assure another person (a parent) that the child will not find out who they are until at least adulthood, if ever. I’m not talking about revealing parents’ identities to the general public; I’m only talking about their son or daughter retaining their rights to their own heritage.

My question is How can this practice be ethically justified? Thank you for your thoughts.
Good answers so far.
As suspected, there is no real justification for “confidential adoption”. It’s disappointing that there are people who believe that adoptees should accept closed adoption on the grounds that they could have been aborted instead, thus leaving them deserving of fewer rights than those not adopted.
Permanently closed adoption simply is not fair to the adoptees.
Keep speaking our truths until we are understood.

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Answer by bailezra
I imagine that it is justified because there are scared young girls and women out there who love their babies, but want to do what’s best for them by putting them up for adoption to couples who would be able to better provide for them, but the idea of a child of theirs being out there in the world that they don’t raise is very painful to them, so they prefer a closed adoption.

I would guess that many of them feel that if they are going to let their babies go, they need to let them go completely in order to move on with their lives.

It was probably more common years ago than it is today, and you have to wonder how many girls might have chosen abortion if closed adoption hadn’t been an option for them back then (when having a baby out of wedlock was more scandalous than it is today).

I’m not saying it’s right or wrong–I’m just saying I can see both sides of it, from the viewpoint of a frustrated adoptee who meets with a dead end when searching for their birth mother, and from the viewpoint of a scared teenaged birth mother.

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Question by …: What truly is “Anti-adoption” and would you consider yourself?
to be “Anti-adoption”.

Please leave your opinions of other people out of this, what do YOU consider yourself to be even if not “Anti-adoption”?
may I ask, under what circumstance do you feel adoptions are okay?

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Answer by DevonChaos
I try not to put a label to my beliefs because then people will assume I believe in certain ideas based on that label.

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