Question by sonnyfoxx2: Does anyone have experience with an adoption “within” the family ?
I have recently been informed that my 15 year old neice is pregnant. My wife and I are considering adopting the baby once it’s born, since my neice has mentioned putting the child up for adoption. Does anyone out there have any first or second hand experience with “interfamily” adoption? Are there any pros and cons I should think about?

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Answer by cathygirl32
My best friend adopted her cousin’s baby (interracial relationship). Since my friend is white and the child is black (she’s 10 now), she does know about being adopted. She is the sweetest, nicest little “lady.” She DOES NOT know who her real mother is. The family get togethers are few and far between as the family’s live in different states, but they do go smoothly when they happen as it was the cousin’s decision for the adoption.

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Question by miss_nikki: How concrete is an “open adoption” contract??
I am not pregnant, if anything I would be on the adopting side of this question, but something else I read on here had me wondering how solid an open adoption contract is. Let’s say the adoptive/biological parents had an agreement that there could be one visit a month, well, does that mean that the adoptive parents can never move (since that would stop the visits)?? Or what if for no reason the adoptive parents decided they didn’t want the child seeing the bilogical parent anymore?? Is there anyway the bioligical parent could fight this??

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Answer by PhilM
Unfortunately, no. Open adoption arrangements are not legally enforceable at this time. Adoptive parents who want to go back on their word are free to do so. It is, in my opinion, a despicable act, but one that is not currently illegal. Hopefully that will change.

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Question by Zoe: How come some people have said they’ve “lost the baby to adoption”?
Please don’t take offense by my question. I just don’t understand. Don’t you give up the adoption because you think it’s best for the baby? Nobody coerces you to, do they?

I just read a few answers with that line in a question and was confused. I’m 16 and don’t much about adoption but I’ve always wanted to adopt and so I want to know why ppl would write that….

Or is it just cause they’re sad about giving up the baby?

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Answer by Molly J
sometimes the birth parent that put the baby up for adoption decides that they want the baby after the adoption parents already have it so the go to court and most of the time the birth parent wins the case so the adoption parents who already had the baby have to give it up.That’s why some people only adopt outside the US because you cant take the baby back in other countries…this happened to my parents the first time they adopted and then they went to Europe for me and even if my birth mother wanted me back she legally couldn’t unless that what we all wanted.(birth mother, my parents, and me)

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Question by cococremejuju: Does “underground adoption” mean that a child is in danger?
Do only bad people with evil intentions work for an underground adoption agency? Does that mean that the adoptive parents will be evil too? Or can the outcomes be good for a child that was sold to an “underground adoption agency.” Just concerned as to why they call it “underground.”
Yes, Gypsy, if you hadn’t notice a lot of my questions are referring to the “Baby Gabriel case” including this question.

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Answer by love my life
It is called underground because it is done outside the legal boundaries or government guidelines, under the radar so to speak. And no it does not mean the the adoptive parents will be evil, and yes the outcome for the child can be good. Just as some are bad for those who go through the proper channels.

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